by Drx Javeed Shameem & Moulana Mustaq Veeri
Marriage which you can also call it Wedlock, wedding, but most preferable term used is NIKKAH, which means the joining of two hearts, and two different families via Nikkah.
Nikkah was first celebrated in heavens, the Nikkah of our Father Adam and our Mother Hawwa.
يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اتَّقُواْ رَبَّكُمُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُم مِّن نَّفْسٍ وَاحِدَةٍ وَخَلَقَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا وَبَثَّ مِنْهُمَا رِجَالاً كَثِيراً وَنِسَاء وَاتَّقُواْ اللّهَ الَّذِي تَسَاءلُونَ بِهِ وَالأَرْحَامَ إِنَّ اللّهَ كَانَ عَلَيْكُمْ رَقِيباً
O men, fear your Lord who created you from a single soul, and from it created its match, and spread many men and women from the two. Fear Allah in whose name you ask each other (for your rights), and fear (the violation of the rights of) the womb-relations. Surely, Allah is watchful over you.
Unfortunately, marriage has become a very big issue today. If someone thinks about marriage they immediately think of all the stress, hassles and responsibilities.
Youth who are in colleges and universities, date with different girls every week, to commit sin, yet they don’t want to get married because marriage has become such a big hassle.
The reality is, marriage is very simple.
Due to our traditions, culture, and customs, marriages have become costly and adultery or Zina have become cheap.
Dowry also plays an important role, but white-collared people take it in such a way that even poor can’t even smell about what they did.
Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said, “the best blessed Nikkah is in which there is least expenditure.”
Parents are more responsible towards the late marriage menace, their choice is that, their children should get a healthy job and high salary in order to get married. Unfortunately, the children cross all limits while reaching their parents expectations.
A boy runs affairs with multiple girls, and rapes have become commonest these days while we used to hardly hear about rapes in the past. No body fears to rape, no body fears to harass an innocent girl.
The main reason is, top people, leaders and Maulanas who commit such things are set free. If these people would be punished severely, they would think twice before committing such crimes.
Very sad part is, our society has become a Porn Hub now, we all are sailing in this boat, victims after victims. But a message we want to share through this article is that, we should rectify ourselves, since we have to depart to ALLAH.
The best way to get rid of these evils is marriage, it protects your gaze, eyes, and your private parts. If we really want a safe, prosperous, peaceful world then we have to follow every step, and every word of Islam.
Drx Javeed Shameem wrote this article after discussion with Moulana Mushtaq Veeri. Javeed Shameem is from Budgam J&K, he holds doctorate in Medicine, and stays active in organizing Drug Awareness Events in Srinagar.