We all manifest one or more behaviors that push people away at least once, if not more, in life. It’s human nature and nothing anyone has to be ashamed about. The mere recognition that you’ve possessed one or more of these traits is a good step towards eliminating them from your life and allowing positivity to enter. Most of the time, people may not even realize that they’re pushing others away. There are several reasons for that, and this article will focus on what they are and how to reverse them.
Four behaviors that push people away (and how to reverse them)
1 – Selfishness
There’s no doubt that the world could use more considerate and thoughtful people. A small gesture of selflessness can go a long way in keeping people you care about the most in your life. Humans, by nature, are intuitive creatures, and can sense if you are doing something with selfish intent. Just because people may not always act on that intuition, doesn’t make taking advantage of them OK.
The fix: In order to live a happy life, you have to learn how to live and thrive with others, and that requires giving away part of yourself without seeking anything in return. Ironically, when you give of yourself without expecting, you are returned that back and more. So if you need a blessing, switch your focus and just go be a blessing.
2 – Conceitedness
The display of conceited behavior is sure to push people away in any social situation. Nobody likes story after story of self-edification consistently communicated via an over-inflated ego. Talking about yourself is great when it’s light and authentic. It’s easy to tell the difference.
Despite what mainstream media may portray, there isn’t a single person in the whole world who is the center of everyone’s entire Universe.
The fix: It is always a good idea to let other people into the spotlight and consider the implications of your decisions and actions towards them in order to foster a healthy relationship. Pop any self-inflated bubble that you may be living in and try to communicate and understand the needs and happiness of those around you.
3 – Self-righteousness
Sometimes, people tend to think highly of themselves and their beliefs… too highly, actually. This can lead to looking down on other people and their decisions without even knowing it. In certain cases, some people’s egos go so far that they may intentionally want others to feel degraded. But, this is a false way to live and gain respect.
The fix: To transform this, one must understand that each individual sets a different standard of how they want to live their lives – and that’s okay. We all have unique value and no one is better than anyone else. Respect that and honor others as you honor yourself.
4 – Chronic Complaining
Happy and successful people do not complain much. On the other side, it seems that chronic complainers always have something negative to say… even when those around them are happy!
The fix: We all have different circumstances that we are given in this lifetime, but in the end, these circumstances are ours – fair or unfair, wanted or unwanted. Instead, seek solutions to problems instead of complaining, which leads to nowhere.